Ughhhhhhh, I am so sick and tired of hearing this story of these married men having secret lives and wives. Before I get into this post let me tell you that I am not at all a male basher or a man hater. I love the men of the world especially those who carry themselves as "real men.." I would like to know though from my male counterparts what defines a "man" or a "real man"? Take away the social perceptions and restraints, take away race and status. Then please tell me.
Scandals and infidelity are just things that occur in the lives of many due to our animalistic behavior and uncontrollable desires to conquer as many of our sexual cravings necessary, not thinking of who we may damage in our quest.
Situation Analysis No.1
There is a woman so happy to be married to the man who treats her as a queen and is a great father to their children. Not even a year into their marriage he seduces another young lady and begins a relationship (fling) with her. I am certain that he had no intentions of leaving his wife and kids for this thing to do. Two years later the wife finds out about his actions and confronts him, he lies. He swears on the kids, he swears on his deceased grandfather that he has not violated their union by having an ongoing affair with another woman. They say if you lie, cheat, and steal; chances are you'd kill too, kill the ones you claim to love most with your lies and deceit. This mistress knows where he lives and has stepped inside of their home..
Situation Analysis No 2.
Woman falls head over hills with a gentlemen who makes her feel so wonderful and like she is the only girl in the world. The girl walks away from family and friends to begin a lifetime full of pleasure, love, and happiness with the man. Has a child with him and considers things that she had never before, he fueled her fire, lifted her higher - her best friend Six years later she discovers from someone that he is a married man; she investigates through the city which they reside and finds his marriage certificate. She has a two month old son with the guy. He is separated from his wife, which should have given him more comfort in telling the truth 6 years ago. I'm sure that he too loves the girlfriend very much, but guys tell me also, is this true love?
I know that to the heterosexual male us women are your weakness, our sensuality and our sensitivity are irresistible. We are so delicate, and so easy to love how could you not. What if you had a daughter? You may even have a daughter or two..
All drama and humiliation could be saved by just being honest, hell you may even get lucky and keep the girl - both women even. Women can respect a man so much more for being honest, than breaking her heart and her spirit with lies, not giving half the truth, but the whole truth. A group of men once told me that, "lying saves lives".... That was very offensive to me, your whole life is a lie in that case, because one leads to another and another and another. And that makes you the hero huh, all the women, all of the men just adore and respect you and hold you high in your kingdom. It feels wonderful huh! I should kick you off your high horse and hand you my gun! KILL YOSELF you DISRESPECTFUL !@#^$R&%*^&)*))($&!!
It's ALL about RESPECT, with respect comes true love, honesty, and a greater value towards life and living. It doesn't matter if it's man or woman. These men will probably kill their wives, girlfriends, or mistresses, (girl you better be faithful to your married man, *sarcasm*) if they found out they lied to them or were unfaithful. It shocks me how men will label women as whores and sluts if they to throw themselves around as such. We Are All Equal with different anatomy, and muscle structures, we are alike. I guess because, "you're a man" it makes it alright to abuse and penetrate as many women who let you. I'm so sick of that one. We're all human and we all have sexual fantasies and desires, but can we control our actions. Why get married? Pressure? Family? Tradition? Society?
Don't cheat those who trust and believe in you. I understand that as a man, you have a great sexual appetite and that's okay. That doesn't mean, "fuck em' all" and some. Let's save some of these STD numbers, let's save or children, and our marriages. Women are so on point when it comes to caring, supporting, and nurturing our men, whether it is family or friend, its our innate nature. We can change the direction of the traditional family lifestyle by being respectful, having moral, and decency. Women have fallen off and so have our men. Stop allowing this please! Expect your man to be the best man and you be the best you for that lifetime of matrimony you promised one another. I'm tired of seeing our women crying and sad over what her "man" or this guy did or said. I will always stand for my women first, but don't be stupid too long. I WOULD NOT accept that my man is sticking his penis in another woman, I WOULD NOT accept "oh she just gave me head", I WOULD NOT accept it no matter how much I love you. Especially if you continue to do it over and over and over again. I'll never need anyone that much. But some women feel like as long as he's bringing home the money and taking care of her financially so she can look like she just wonderful, I'm good. ......... PLEASE!!! (rolls eyes)
I see that now days women and men are okay with their partners or spouses to have a side piece as long as they don't forget where home is. I may be too old to understand this one. - too much for me honey.
Women we are guilty of cheating scandals too, but for the most part a WOMAN is going to be up front with you before and/or after the cheating.
Once we stop allowing these things that hurt our women, our children, our culture - we can walk on the road towards recovery.
Guy friends if you made it this far tell me what defines a good man?
Okay gotta run, I have attached "Women Lie-Men Lie" for your listening pleasures
Women Lie-Men Lie by LS Lane feat. Naquia
Have a safe and fun weekend.
Weiner you're a DICK!! Come On Son!!!
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